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Here's the Friends survey, if anyone wants to take it.
Frankly, some of the questions puzzled me. I've always thought that the f-list is a way of getting feeds for blogs you like to read (the LJ version of Bloglines, in other words). I don't quite understand all the emotional undercurrents attached to it, especially all the issues involved in "defriending." Why would you be upset if someone "defriended" you? I know a lot of you know your friends outside of cyberspace, but I don't (or at least not yet). So it wouldn't bother me in the least if someone defriended me. Not that I want y'all to--I'm flattered that you think these natterings are interesting enough to read. Nevertheless, if anyone gets tired of reading me for any reason, it won't upset me if you kick me off your list. People's tastes change, you know.
If there's some etiquette involved in friending someone (i.e., asking permission), I will admit I have fallen down in that. Whenever I see an LJ that looks interesting, I just pop it on my f-list. My main criteria is that the writer have personality, and something in the person's philosophy speaks to me. Not that I necessarily agree with everything they say, but they have to put forth their ideas in an engaging manner. Sorry, I don't respond to rants about boyfriends and school; I'm a bit too old for that to hold my attention. I think all the friends I have are interesting people, and I like to hear what they have to say.
So: what's the benchmark for friending? Anyone can answer.
Frankly, some of the questions puzzled me. I've always thought that the f-list is a way of getting feeds for blogs you like to read (the LJ version of Bloglines, in other words). I don't quite understand all the emotional undercurrents attached to it, especially all the issues involved in "defriending." Why would you be upset if someone "defriended" you? I know a lot of you know your friends outside of cyberspace, but I don't (or at least not yet). So it wouldn't bother me in the least if someone defriended me. Not that I want y'all to--I'm flattered that you think these natterings are interesting enough to read. Nevertheless, if anyone gets tired of reading me for any reason, it won't upset me if you kick me off your list. People's tastes change, you know.
If there's some etiquette involved in friending someone (i.e., asking permission), I will admit I have fallen down in that. Whenever I see an LJ that looks interesting, I just pop it on my f-list. My main criteria is that the writer have personality, and something in the person's philosophy speaks to me. Not that I necessarily agree with everything they say, but they have to put forth their ideas in an engaging manner. Sorry, I don't respond to rants about boyfriends and school; I'm a bit too old for that to hold my attention. I think all the friends I have are interesting people, and I like to hear what they have to say.
So: what's the benchmark for friending? Anyone can answer.
